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Grieving girl starts Covid support group

ByJulie J. Helfer

Mar 17, 2022

People grieving the loss of a loved one can be helped in many different ways, but there’s nothing quite like a support group of people with similar circumstances in the circle to grieve with.

This is what motivated Micky Kaapama (27) to start a psychosocial support group for people who have lost loved ones to Covid-19. She says talking to an expert seemed too expensive for her as she struggled to navigate life after losing her mother to Covid-19.

“I started this group because a few months ago, although it feels like yesterday, I lost my mother to Covid-19. The whole experience, from the moment where she was diagnosed until her death, was traumatic,” Kaapama said.

She said: “To see someone you love with all your heart not being able to breathe completely breaks your soul. It was extremely difficult to deal with the loss, to have to search for a casket the very next day, and [immediately] start planning his funeral when the morgue was overwhelmed. It was tragic.

She barely sleeps at night, has occasional panic attacks, and it all feels like a nightmare.

The biotech graduate said she knows she’s not the only one experiencing this, based on last year’s Covid-19 statistics.

“I’m not the only one who cries some nights to sleep, and I also believe that talking to people who have had a similar experience will somehow help us cope and share the pain. , and will show us a way to heal from it. trauma. It will make a significant difference. I want to help others and myself too.

Kaapama attempted to speak to a specialist and seek help, but it became costly.

“I just focused on taking care of myself, my daughters and my younger sister. Music also helped me a lot to get in touch with my emotions, as well as to cry when I needed to,” she recalls.

“Also, I think my bubbly personality has made it easier for me because I find a lot of joy in making people laugh. So making people laugh also makes me laugh, and laughing is a form of therapy for me. I am also very grateful to have friends, family and colleagues who are very supportive of me,” she added.

To date, the group has over 50 Namibians from across the country.

“I reached out to a few organizations I know that are willing to do pro bono work. One of them responded and expressed interest,” Kaapama shared.

She added that grief is not something you deal with and think it is a feeling of pain that arises when you think about the person you have lost.

“Grieving is a natural process. It allows us to deal with the pain and release the energy that is attached to the pain of losing a loved one so we can focus on our journey. Loss teaches us about love, survival and resilience. We will be able to realize this after having treated the grief. If left untreated, grief can cause physical pain and lead to serious mental health issues,” Kaapama said.

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