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Columbus man forms support group for fathers who have lost their children to violence

ByJulie J. Helfer

Oct 6, 2021

COLUMBUS (WCMH) – With Columbus on the verge of breaking its homicide record, more families are suffering the loss of a loved one.

A new support group for these families is in its very early stages.

Columbus already has a Mothers of Murdered Columbus Children group, and now a fathers group is in the works.

David Fluellen, the organizer of the new group, said there was a huge need in the community for this support, adding that while fathers might not show so much harm on the outside, they also needed help. ‘aid.

Fluellen was born and raised in Columbus and knows the toll violence inflicts on the city.

“It’s really heartbreaking,” he said. “It really is. Again, especially when it hits home. I have a friend who has lost his three sons. I can’t imagine that feeling.

Fluellen is the founder and CEO of the Urban Family Development Center, which runs DADS2B, an organization that helps those about to be new fathers. Now he plans to help fathers who have lost children as well.

“It’s huge,” he said. “It’s huge in the fact that once again we just need a space for men to come in, openly express their feelings. “

Fluellen is amazed at the work done by Mothers of Murdered Columbus Children to support those whose children were taken too early. In collaboration with this group, he launches Fathers of Murdered Columbus Children.

“It hit me kinda like a ton of bricks, to see all these moms, all these women pouring out their hearts that lost their sons, lost their daughters and I was just like, ‘Yo, where are the dads ? ‘ “

While men are often not so open and open to their pain, Fluellen hopes to give them the space where they can be.

“From an early age we are taught not to openly express our emotions, especially in inner city urban communities, because you could be taken advantage of,” he said. “My uncle used to say that the pressure blows the pipes and if I keep bottling those emotions, bottling those feelings, it’s going to come out, and a lot of times it comes out at the wrong time.”

Fluellen plans to hold the group’s first reunion over the holidays, as he said these times can often be some of the most difficult for those who have lost loved ones.